11 Jan How to Fall in Love with Yourself

Do you feel like your life is out of alignment, but you don’t know why? Or are you living with a lot of self-doubt, fear, anxiety, or negativity, and wish that you could find a way out of that mindset? 

One of the most powerful forces in the universe is love, and it could be the answer you’ve been looking for. While sharing love with others around us is important, we don’t usually think about giving that love to ourselves. Self-love is one of the most overlooked and most powerful ways to snap yourself out of negative thought patterns.

Whether you’ve been feeling out of touch for awhile and need to fall back in love with yourself, or you’re completely new to the idea of self-love and aren’t sure where to start, we’re here to guide you. Read the steps below to learn how to incorporate self-love into your daily routine.

1. Release All Self-Judgement

If you have a tendency to get down on yourself about anything from your mistakes, procrastination, or self-worth, to your appearance or capabilities, it’s time to stop … now. You are your own worst critic. And a lot of what you might be telling yourself may not be true at all!

Take time to forgive yourself for any past decisions you regret, thank yourself for doing good things, and speak better about yourself even when you’re alone. Make a list of all the things you say to yourself throughout the day. You’ll be shocked to see how mean you can be to yourself, and how often it occurs. Once you have a good list going, make a list of opposites and start telling yourself those things instead. 

For example, if you find yourself saying things like “OMG I’m so dumb” or “I look so fat in this outfit”, turn them around and say “I’m really smart” and “I look amazing in this top” even if you don’t mean it at first. Our bodies react to the thoughts we have about ourselves and will reflect whatever it is we’re saying, so start saying good things. It takes time to reprogram your subconscious mind, so try to do this for at least 21 days.

2. Do Things that Set Your Soul on Fire

Without stopping yourself to think about whether something is “realistic,” let yourself envision a life you’d love to be living. What does that look like? What would you be doing for work? How would you be spending your time? Who would you be surrounded by? Where would you be living? 

Answering these questions with authenticity and without restrictions can help you realize what truly makes you feel passionate, empowered, and excited about life. Chances are you already know deep down what brings you joy; you may just need a little reminder. 

3. Spend Time Learning About Yourself

Surrounding yourself with other people all the time can often block your inner voice from being heard. 

In order to bring more self-love into your life, you’ll need to set aside some time to learn more about you. Whether you take an hour each morning to meditate and write in a journal, or you take an annual trip somewhere to travel by yourself, practice solitude regularly. Learning to be comfortable with yourself can be a powerful way to build your self-confidence and sense of self-worth.

4. Look at Your Relationships

If you have family members, friends, co-workers, or other people in your life who don’t support you and speak negatively towards you all the time, you’re bound to struggle with self-love. 

As hard as it may be (and trust us, we know it’s hard), letting go of these relationships and focusing more on the people who make you feel empowered and excited will drastically improve your life. 

And if you don’t have them yet, start seeking them out! The universe can more easily help you find them once you open up space in your life for new relationships to form. 

5. Practice Saying No

Do you ever say “yes” only because you feel obligated to, or because it’s what others think you should do, or out of habit? If so, then you may need to start trying Marie Forleo’s simple exercise about making decisions based on fear vs. intuition: 

“Get in a comfortable seated or standing position. Close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths (at least three) and allow your mind to settle. Be present in your body. Then ask yourself the following question and pay careful attention to your instant, involuntary interior body reaction: Does saying yes to this make me feel expansive or contractive?” 

Your gut instinct, your inner voice, your heart: it will tell you through your body’s physical reaction to something whether you should say yes or no. If you feel more open, light, or excitement in your body, it’s your intuition telling you to move forward. 

Marie adds: “Or do you feel an immediate sense of heaviness and dread? Does your heart sink? Do you detect a tightening in your chest or a sick feeling in your tummy?” These are all signs pointing towards “no.” 

When you practice saying no to more things in life that don’t align with your life vision or goals, you are practicing self-love and giving a voice to your intuition. 

6. Take Breaks

Sometimes what we need more than anything is rest. Learning to love yourself doesn’t always have to happen through action. Maybe what you need is some time and space to relax, breathe, and sleep more deeply. Allow yourself time each day to just relax without beating yourself up about all the things you “should” be doing. 

7. Treat Yourself to Healthy Experiences

Get outside. Eat nutritious foods. Exercise at least a few times a week. Read a good book. Spend more quality time with people you love. Give yourself the gift of healthy and positive experiences to show your body and soul some love. 

Remember that asking for help is okay and shouldn’t ever be anything to feel ashamed of. Sometimes you may need others to remind you that you’re worthy of support and encouragement. And sometimes you may need to remind yourself that you can’t do everything by yourself all the time. Embrace your worthiness and delegate!

Bodywork (such as massages, acupuncture, or chiropractic work) and energy work can help you find healing and appreciation for yourself from the inside out. Learn more about our in-office chiropractic and reiki sessions or our distance healing package by reaching out to us today!